Monday, September 27, 2010

Hello, My Name is Jen...

18th September 2010

I've met some amazing ladies through my blog in Sydney, but I've still found it really difficult to make other friends here. Don't get me wrong, I consider all of these bloggy ladies to be friends but I also understand that they are already settled here - they have their own friends and family, their own routines and are busy enough as it is, and I don't expect anymore than what they have already done for me.

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Anyway, I was feeling particularly friendless the other day (yes I know, woe is me and all that) when I realised that I was going about this whole 'finding friends' business completely the wrong way and that I really needed to change my view on it. So I came to the spectacular realisation that I need to start finding people who are in the same boat as me - people who are also new in town and who are looking for friends. After all, Sydney has a population of over 4 million, there must be some people in the same boat right?

So, while perusing ye olde interwebz I found something very interesting that I now plan to attend.
It's called speed friending, a bit like speed dating but for finding friends - I know, I took some convincing myself too, but decided to hell with it, it's probably worth a shot.


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Once a month, a group of ladies-only get together for the sole reason of finding friends. You sit down with them one by one with all their names on a sheet of paper and after each person you meet you put a 'yes' next to their name if you might want to see them again. Then, a few days later, you get emailed the contact details of the ladies you said yes to, and who said yes back to you, and if you want to, you can get in contact with them.

Sounds a little cheesy I know, but I'll give anything a go right now. I've missed out on tickets for the September round but plan to buy my ticket for the October round (and that way I'll have a bit more time to let it sink in what I'm actually planning to do - I'm shy people!! and what on earth happens to my confidence if no one wants to see me again?).

So this is my plan and anyone female, friendless and living Sydneyside is more than welcome to join me :)

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Jen


'A relationship is a connection, an association, or an involvement with someone else. This can be male or female, but for a woman, a friendship with another woman is not a luxury but a necessity.'

A line I read in an article the other day, and goodness me, how true it is!
Wish me luck.

25 comments:

  1. Great Sailor dress and hope all goes well with that - it sounds like a good idea!

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  2. Jen, this is a fantastic idea! I've lived in Wellington for a long time now and most of my close friends are now living overseas. So I'm in search for replacement friends too. I would definitely go to this event if it came here. Good luck!

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  3. Hey Jen,

    That speed friending actually sounds like a bit of fun!

    Good luck!

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  4. oh WOW! That is really cool. I am having the same problem. I feel like there are so many lovely blogger friends.. but no friends I actually hang out with. I just moved to NZ and being shy doesn't help me one bit to find a friend.. please update and let us know how it goes! I am very interested :)

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  5. Love your dress! Its adorable. The speed friending actually sounds like fun. I think the fact that its ladies only would be nice too. It will make it more relaxed.

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  6. Go for it!! It's a marvellous idea! :) You are a fantastic person - of course they'll want to meet you again!

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  7. You seem like a perfectly delightful person and I can't imagine anyone not wanting to see you again.

    I think you're going to have a great time and I'm excited for you!

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  8. Speed friending actually sounds like it could be kind of fun. Go for it!

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  9. Such a darling dress! I'm loving the collar and the color too.

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  10. Cute dress! I missed you this time round but I'm back in Sydney at the end of October if you're still keen to meet up! :)

    I am a bit the same, in that I find it hard to make new friends outside of people I work with. Pen pals can be a fun thing to do, too, plus you get to look forward to letters in the mailbox! =D

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  11. Good luck! That sounds like a great idea. =D
    -Andi x

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  12. Well I think that's a great idea! I hope you have fun! Very cute pics too btw :)

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  13. That sounds great! Hope you meet some lovely people x

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  14. Oh, I know exactly what you mean - I always have problems making friends because I'm pretty shy with people I don't know... This speed friending sounds like fun, though, I'm sure you'll meet lots of nice people! :) Maybe you could also take a class or something? Like, pilates or yoga or any kind of craft? I'm sure you'd meet like-minded people there!

    Oh and yes, that dress is seriously cute. :)

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  15. Good Luck with your Friend dating, it sounds like a wonderful idea. If your blog is anything to go by I am sure you will have lots of people saying yes and wanting to get to know you.

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  16. Who wouldn't want to friend you? I bet it will be lots of fun.

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  17. Hi Jen

    I moved to Vancouver from Paris last year and it is true that making friends with "locals" can be a little bit harder. But you're right about finding people that are "in the same boat". the closest friends we have here now are people (mostly french, but not all of them) who moved here about the same time as us and have been going through the same settling down process. Findind an apartment, a job, adapting to a different lifestyle. Fun part is, we met some of them through our blog that we started about moving away.
    in time, you'll also find friendships in people that have traveled a bit, and are interested in different cultures...
    I think the "speed-friendship" thing could be kind of fun, and you've got nothing to lose anyway right ? Cheers !

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  18. I can sympathize - finding quality female friends is really hard! Good for you for taking this step and getting out there. I am shy as well and have to push myself into social situations I don't feel too comfortable with. But, who cares about fear? Soon it will be gone and you'll have some cool friends to hang out with! Good luck! :-)

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  19. Loving that dress! You look fabulous in it!

    Speed friending sounds like a very cool idea. I look forward to hearing how it goes...

    I'm also looking forward to dinner on Thursday! Still want to go yum cha?

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  20. What a great idea! Making new friends as an adult is so hard (I know exactly how you feel)
    Hope you meet some lovely people xx

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  21. Good luck with finding friends-- that seems like a fairly logical way to go about it. I seriously doubt anyone would meet you and decide *not* to want to see you again! You seem quite charming to me! :) Adorable dress!

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  22. You are a brave possum!!But,hell,why ever not?! Hope it goes well!
    Loving that frock!!!

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Jen