I am by no means a rich or wealthy woman (in monetary terms anyway).
Ever since I was 16, I've always worked, which in turn has meant I've always been able to do and buy what ever I wanted, within reason. I've also always been a saver, putting away money every pay round for a rainy day.
When David and I moved to Sydney three months ago, I really did think it would be quite easy for me to get a job with my experience. And as those of you who have been reading my blog for a little while now know, that was not to be the case.
Just after we arrived, I paid off the entirety of my student loan, which took the majority of my savings (but also meant I am officially debt free!!) and the rest was spent on settling into Sydney. Finding a rental property and buying necessities like a fridge, a washing machine, a bed, towels, drawers, plates, cutlery etc can all add up to quite a bit when you are buying it all at once, even if you do buy it cheaply.
So there I was, somebody who is very independent, jobless, savings-less and all of a sudden needing to borrow money - a position I have never really been in before.
David had no problems lending me money while I searched desperately for a job, he does after all, know where I sleep. And while we both knew I would pay him back when I eventually found a job, I still hated knowing I had to ask for money. I hate asking for money, it makes me feel needy, especially asking to borrow money from your fiance', your partner, the person who is supposed to be your equal.
We have always been equals. We have both always shared in equal amounts the rent, the bills, the house work and the mundane day to day business of sharing a life together.
Last week, I got my very first paycheck and it was sooooo exciting! I felt like I could finally function as a real human being again. We could go out for dinner (which we did), we could look around town and do things without fear of needing to pay to do something or seeing something we wanted to buy - we felt liberated!
And now, after I've paid back David, I can start to build up my savings again and we can start saving for the wedding (which, in the past week, we have really started nutting out - very exciting!).
I can hang out with my lovely bloggy friends and do fun things without needing to worry if I can afford it. This Saturday I am meeting up with Eileen again and also meeting Eunice for the very first time. I've also been invited to a high tea at some point in the future with two other bloggy ladies, one whom I've met, the other who I haven't, but who has just recently got married. I get to pick her brains - but more on that when its confirmed.
Photos by David. Taken on Sunday on our way to do groceries. It was a beautiful day and you can see the Harbour bridge just a few meters down the road from our house. Lovely.